Doctrine of the Family

There were a few things that stuck out to me this week  as we have been discussing divorce and remarriage.  As a missionary I loved teaching people about the doctrine of the family and how God gave us a family in order to learn and to grow so that one day we would be able to return to live with Him again along with our families for eternity.  I think it is so vital that people understand the doctrine of the family.  When I took FAML 100 I really came to realize just how important the family is and its impact on the world.  Another thing that resonated with me is that family is a choice, not a passive occurrence in life.  This choice is challenging but also the most rewarding thing we can have in this life and the next. The other thing that stuck out to me is that a family with a mom, dad, and biological children is not the only kind of family.  This type of family in the church is seen as the perfect, ideal family, but sometimes things happen that prevent this whether it is death, divorce, remarriage, or adoption.  Something that I never thought much about is that we are all adopted.  Through the gospel and as we live it Christ adopts us into His family.  I think sometimes we look down on or judge those who don't fit the mold of a "normal" family, but we shouldn't because we are all brothers and sisters and need to treat each other as such. 

The "I" Message

This week we have been learning about parenting and something that stuck out to me as I was watching one of the videos was the "I" Message segment.  This means that instead of blaming the other person for doing or not doing something that you focus on the problem or the behavior. For example you say, "I have a problem with this mess." instead of saying, "Why haven't you picked up this mess?" or "You left the room messy." Then you state how you feel and your reason for feeling that way and then say, "I would like... help cleaning up this room."  I have found that when I criticize someone it hardly ever helps the situation because they often become defensive.  They became defensive because I'm attacking them or in other words I am attacking their character. I'm taking a marriage class this semester and I remember learning this same concept except it was with a spouse.  This is a good technique to use in all of your relationships, not just children.

Work is an eternal principle

This week in class we have been discussing work and the home.  Something that I never noticed from the account of Adam and Eve is that the Lord didn't curse them, he cursed the ground for their sake.  It really is a blessing to work. In Moses 1:39 we read that God's work and glory is to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man. God doesn't just sit in heaven and do nothing, he continues to work so that we can be happy and receive the blessings of eternal life.  I'm thankful that my parents taught be how to work.  Work in the home is often seen as menial, repetitive, and mindless.  These things are viewed negatively, but they have some great benefits.  Because housework is menial it allows little children to contribute, because it is repetitive it gives us the opportunity to give repeated service, and because it is mindless we can think of other things or engage in a meaningful conversation with others. I never thought of these things before, but there is some real value in these things.

Inspired Councils & Inspired FHEs

As I served as a missionary I was able to really see how the church works and how important it is to have inspired councils to further the work of the Lord.  In class this week we learned about councils and talked about the General Authorities meeting every Thursday in the temple.  As we were discussing it I realized that this weekly council reminded me a lot of how FHE is set up or should be set up.
1. Every Thursday- A set apart time that is sacred
- Fhe is supposed to be every Monday evening
2. In the temple- A sacred place
- Our home should be a sacred place. The home is next to the temple in sacredness.
3. Express love and gratitude
- We should do this in our family often
4. Opening prayer
- FHE should start with a prayer to invite the spirit.
5. Discuss to consensus
- Discuss the needs of the family and have a lesson
6. Closing prayer
- In this way we can consecrate it to the Lord
7. Eat chocolate or pie
- After the lesson or activity there is always refreshments! :)
I know growing up in my family that FHE wasn't always the most enlightening time for my family, often there were arguments and contention, but looking back I'm glad we did it.  FHE is an inspired program and I think it has a lot of potential just like councils are inspired and have a lot of potential.